Using seed packets for wedding favors is a lovely idea and is very cost effective as well. You can present your wedding guests with seeds for annual flowers, perennials, trees, shrubs or even houseplants. The options are practically limitless.
Should you be having a theme that incorporates flowers, such as a daisy wedding theme, this makes choosing flower seed packets pretty easy. A nice idea would be to determine how many different varieties of a particular flower there is that you could hand out as favors, rather than using all of the same color or type. For a wedding that isn’t focused on flowers as an actual theme, you could package your chosen seed types in themed containers instead. Here are a few examples:
Should you be having a beach/seashore wedding, choose flowers and shrub seeds that would normally grow near an ocean. Bayberry (bush), Sweet Pea (vine), or Rosemary (herb) are all good choices. Use miniature treasure chests, large sea shells, or beach themed favor bags or boxes to hold your seed packets.
Coneflower (Mexican Hat), Desert Baileya (Desert Marigold) or Purple Sage bushes are ideal for a Western theme wedding. Place the seed packets in miniature cowboy hats or boots, small colorful southwestern clay pots, or wrapped in gingham fabric.
Although Roses seem to be the first choice for a Valentine’s Day, sweetheart or romantic theme, there are several other flower choices that are just as romantic. Try using forget-me-nots, orchids, Amaranth (Globe), Bell Flower or Sunflower. These are just a few of the flowers that are associated with meanings of romance, which you can include on your thank-you favor tags.
Weddings that are based on colors can also use seed packages that will grow flowers related to a particular color combination. For example, if you choose to have a white and black themed wedding, use pure white flower seeds packs placed in black velvet-like material bags. Purple and gold makes a stunning color combination and flower seeds such as violets, purple irises, or purple lilacs placed in gold-toned favor boxes would be ideal as favors.
When it comes to choosing what types of flower seeds you could give out as favors, the variety of ideas are endless. All it takes is a little bit of imagination and creativity. Hopefully the above ideas will provide you with some inspiration to come up with your own combination of wedding favors.
About the Author:
(c)2006. Rose Smith owns Wedding Themes and More. Visit http://www.wedthemes.com for additional ideas on unique themed wedding planning guides and resources, articles, tips and more to help you plan a beautiful wedding.
Having the consummate marriage is something most brides and grooms dream of. They both want their marriage day as the most perfect experience they will encounter.
Its little wonder that so many individuals are engaged in planning weddings as the precise details of the wedding can never be taken lightly. From the photography, invitations, and speeches, right through to the reception, every detail should be be considered in minute detail.
lets reflect on the centerpieces. For some other occasions, centerpieces may not be of prime importance, but for weddings, these magnificent embellishments usually set up in the reception area are exceedingly important as they enhance the total mood of the reception and complement the occasion and the gathering along with the other aspects of the wedding.
Often, wedding centerpieces do not form part of the arrangements for the reception or the catering; hence, it is a must that you engage the finest provider of wedding centerpieces available, or put plenty of thought into your own efforts.
Whether you have the budget to spend up on an extravagant centerpiece for your wedding, or are constrained by a shortage of funds….( welcome to the club! ) , the perfect centerpiece can be created with some effort and planning.
So, for persons who wish to obtain some good advice on selecting wedding centerpieces, here are some suggestions that should be of assistance.
In most situations, flowers are considered the best form of centerpieces for weddings.. They add color and life in the reception area, and enhance the spirit of those who are present in the reception. Flowers give a wholesome feel and certainly add to the ambience of the reception.
Something that you should not overlook if you are using flowers in the centerpieces, is that the person that you hire to decorate the church may be the most appropriate person for the decorations at the reception.
There is no shortage of people who can set up wedding centerpieces, so take time to look around and obtain more ideas. Take note of the colors, and types of flowers recommended as these details are most important. Colors chosen must compliment the color and the setting of the wedding reception
If flowers are outside your budget, or you wish to consider something different for your centerpieces, candles both floating and scented, ornaments of various designs and even sweets or fruit are other popular choices. Bowls of floating flowers and candles make an attractive presentation for table centerpieces, and are easy to assemble. If you like flowers but hate the thought of all those blooms being wasted after the reception, consider potted plants.
If you are considering an informal wedding, candy centerpieces are worth a look. Just get a set of attractive glass containers from your local discount store and fill them with jelly beans. Add a silk ribbon around the edge and the job is done.
Just use your creativity and imagination to create something wonderful out of any of these options. I have even attended a wedding in a garden setting which featured miniature bird houses as intriguing centerpieces..
In conclusion it is important to remember that wedding centerpieces need not cost the earth. What matters most is to have them glorious adornments to the table and a feature which you will treasure forever among your collection of wedding photographs .
The wedding speech, when well thought out, rehearsed and
properly delivered, could bring a wedding reception or dinner to
life. A good wedding speech will entertain and make the guests
feel great about being present for the celebration. Here are a
few tips for writing your own wedding speech if you don’t have
any idea what to say.
Thank Anyone Important
A wedding is an ideal occasion to thank many people. Name the
people you want to give thanks to and why. For example, if you
are the best man, you can thank the groom for being his best
friend. If you are the bride, you can thank your parents for
raising you to be independent and smart.
Tell a Story
People like to hear stories about other people. Say something
you know about the person you will be talking about because you
were also there when it happened, or even if you had only heard
about it. For example, you and the groom went to the same
college but attended lectures late, if at all in the mornings
because you both played poker all night long. The groom won
often and made enough to pay for one semester’s tuition.
Give a History Lesson
This is very similar to telling a story. Go over the
significant milestones, if you are familiar with them, about
this person, the bride or groom. That would include the schools
they attended, the jobs they had or the hobbies they are in to.
Disclose a Secret
Everyone likes to hear and tell secrets. Say something no one
knows about the person you will be talking about but may be
surprised to find out. For example, tell the guests that the
bride once auditioned for a popular television show. Or, that
the groom had a crush on his third grade school teacher, who by
the way is a guest tonight.
Say Something Funny
Any occasion would be fun if humor were part of it. If you can
make people laugh with a funny story, everyone will feel like
they are having a good time and enjoy themselves. You can’t
force a laugh. However, the stories you tell or the situations
you describe can end up getting a few guests chuckling without
you trying to make it funny.
Give Unsolicited Advice
It’s customary for someone to give the newlyweds some advice.
The most common is anything on marriage. If you are making a
speech and you are married, you can share your wisdom on how to
be a good spouse. A common advice is to resolve your argument
before you both go to sleep. Another would be that the wife is
always right. Although these examples are important, admittedly
they have been over-used. What you can do, if you can’t think of
advice that no one else has ever told, is to make these original
or unique by describing how the advice has helped you in your
own marriage.
Reveal Your Feelings
You can express your feelings about the people you will be
talking about in your speech. If you are the father of the
bride, tell your daughter how proud you are of her and that you
will always be there for her. In addition, you can tell your new
son-in-law how happy you are to have him as a new member of the
family.
Get the Audience Involved
This idea is a bit unconventional and almost crosses into the
job of the MC, however you might consider getting the audience
involved by asking questions about the couple. You can ask about
the craziest thing the couple has ever done. Or, you can ask
about why they would make a good couple. You can come up with
any opened ended question that requires some explaining. Some
would be glad to participate just to be the life of the party.
By doing this, you’ll loosen up the crowd and make the
celebration all the more fun.
You should consider it an honor and a privilege if asked to
make a speech at a wedding reception. The newlywed’s family
asked you because they trust you and have respect in you. They
know that they can count on you to do a good job. Your moment to
shimmer in the spotlight is near. Good luck and have fun.
Copyright © 2006 By Leroy Chan
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Is the cost of your wedding putting the honeymoon of your dreams out of reach? Not to worry; if you already have all the kitchenware and bedding you need, and if you have generous friends and family, your problem might be solved by setting up a honeymoon registry.
A honeymoon registry is much like a wedding registry. Just as a wedding registry allows you to create a list of gifts you would prefer to receive at your wedding, a honeymoon registry allows you to create a list of places you would like to go and things you would like to do on your honeymoon. The honeymoon registry enables your wedding guests to purchase portions of your honeymoon. Yes, your guests could just contribute cash toward your honeymoon, but somehow giving a particular portion of the honeymoondinner at a fancy restaurant, or a carriage ride, for exampleis more meaningful.
Type the phrase “honeymoon registry” into your favorite search engine, and you’ll get thousands of results. There are three basic kinds of honeymoon registries:
- Registries that require you to book your travel through the travel agency offering the registry.
- Registries that allow you to book your travel either through the sponsoring travel agency (or other affiliated travel agencies), through the travel agency of your choice, or on your own. Usually these registries charge an extra fee or higher service charge if you choose not to book travel through the registry’s parent travel agency.
- Registries that are not affiliated with any travel agencies, requiring you to make travel arrangements on your own or through a travel agency of your choice.
If a honeymoon registry sounds like the perfect solution for you, then here is a quick guide to choosing, creating, and using one:
1. Choosing the honeymoon registry
Search for the term “honeymoon registry” on your favorite search engine, and you’ll come up with plenty of results. How do you choose the one that’s best for you? Here are a few basic tips:
- Take a “virtual tour” of several different registries. Start by looking for the registry’s FAQ page, then look at a few examples of honeymoon registries.
- Look for professionalism. Does the site provide a thorough explanation of its services, including all fees and service charges? Does it explain who you can contact or what you can do if you run into problems? If the honeymoon registry is run by a travel agency, does the FAQ explain the company’s policy for cancelled or delayed travel?
- Contact couples who have actually used the registry. You can find couples by looking up old honeymoon registries and doing a web search for their e-mail addresses. Or look for e-mail addresses associated with wedding home pages hosted by the registry service. Send a friendly e-mail explaining your situation and asking for advice; most couples will be happy to offer their advice.
- Talk to someone from the registry service, either by phone or e-mail. If the registry service falls short on customer service when you’re signing up, don’t expect better service if a problem arises.
2. Creating the honeymoon
First, you submit some basic personal informationyour names, the date of the wedding, contact information, and so on. Then you create your registry, which is an itemized list of all your honeymoon expenses. Some registries charge a setup fee, usually between $100-$150; others charge nothing to the wedding couple, but charge wedding guests a “service fee” when they buy part of the honeymoon. Most honeymoon registry websites allow you to create your registry right away over the web. Other sites put you in touch (by phone or e-mail) with a representative who helps you create your registry.
What can you list on your registry? If you can buy it, you can list it. Typical registries list transportation, lodging, activities, special amenities, and meals. Expensive items are usually broken down so guests can choose to pay only a portion of the item. For example, a honeymoon registry might list 10 gifts of $100 each toward your $1000 airfare expense.
Some honeymoon registries allow you to personalize your registry with a message to your guests and descriptions of the different parts of your honeymoon, perhaps even allowing you to upload pictures to the registry.
3. Announcing the honeymoon registry
Once your registry is set up, you need to let your wedding guests know that it exists. Many registries will provide you with printed cards announcing the registry and its web address; you can either mail them with the wedding invitation or separately. Some registries will e-mail your wedding guests if you provide their addresses.
The more tactful approach is to let your guests know about your registry indirectly. Let your parents, close friends, or wedding party members know that you have a honeymoon registry; they can pass the word along to guests. Or create a wedding web page with up-to-date information for guests, and include a link to your registry on that page. You can then list the address of your wedding web page in your invitation without directly bringing up the issue of gifts.
4. Buying gifts from the honeymoon registry
Guests look up your registry by typing your last name(s) into a search box on the registry website. After reading what you want, they click on the item(s) they want to buy and pay for the items over the website. Most registries also allow guests to purchase items by phone.
The gift-giver usually receives a certificate that is either sent to the wedding couple or to the giver (to hand on to the couple in person); some registries charge a fee to mail this certificate. Other registries notify the couple of the gift by e-mail. On any registry, you can track how many gifts you have received simply by logging into the registry.
It’s important to note that most registries require guests to pay a service charge for the privilege of contributing to your honeymoon. The service charge is a percentage of the cost of the gift; the registries we surveyed had service charges ranging from 3.5% to 15%. So if a guest wants to pay $100 toward your airfare and the honeymoon registry website imposes a 10% service charge, she will end up spending $110.
5. Paying for the honeymoon
The wedding couple are ultimately responsible for paying for their honeymoon expenses. That means that any portion of the honeymoon that must be paid prior to the wedding (airfare, room deposits and so on) comes out of your pocket. Some or all of those expenses might be picked up by your guests, although most couples’ honeymoon expenses are not completely covered by their registry. It’s wise not to plan a more extravagant honeymoon than you can pay for yourselves.
Whatever money wedding guests contribute toward the honeymoon is placed in a holding account. The registry sends the couple a check (or electronically deposits the funds into their account) on a predetermined date, usually a week before the wedding. Even though the wedding guests paid for certain parts of the honeymoon, the couple is really free to use the money for anything they want.
6. Thanking guests
It’s important to write thank-you notes to guests who bought part of the honeymoon (just as you would write thank-you notes for any wedding gift). It might actually be fun to thank guests for the honeymoon, though, because you can describe your experience in the noteyou might even include a picture.
Jerry Windley-Daoust runs the Creative Honeymoon Ideas website, where you can learn more about honeymoon registries, including a side-by-side comparison of six popular honeymoon registries.
When you are planning a budgeted menu, you must first know what your exact budget is when it comes to the food and drink specifically. Some people keep the food and drinks separate, but on average, the food and drink are a part of the same bill.
If you can afford the more expensive catering services, then by all means enjoy. However, if you are like most of us, you will likely need a little bit of help in creating a menu that is fitting to your budget.
If you are hosting an indoor reception in a hall and plan to have a dinner option, you have to make sure that you accommodate the needs of all of your guests which include vegetarians. You should request that the guests RSVP beforehand so that you can get the right amount of vegetarian plates.
The way that you choose to serve the dinners can vary. Here are some tips on how you can choose to serve the guests to make it a bit cheaper for you.
• You can serve the meals buffet style, with this option you have people forego wedding gifts in favor of bringing a dish
• You can offer vegetable, fruit an meat platters with dips and crackers instead of foods
• You can ask each guest to contribute a small amount of money to the reception or to make donations toward the reception rather than buying a gift.
• You can offer a soup and salad menu rather than a full blown entrée
• Offer a limited bar which means that you offer an open bar only at certain times such as after dinner and during toasting etc. that way your guests aren’t paying and you won’t go broke, the rest of the time offer a cash bar
• Offer around the world appetizers instead of a meal. This will give you the opportunity to offer fill ups such as crab, shrimp. Etc. as well as casual appetizers like cheese sticks, chicken wings, and mushroom caps etc. the around the world motif will also provide your party with a variety of different tastes.
• Request that each immediate family member create a dish instead of a present
• Do not pay for extras like servers, bartenders etc. asking a friend or family member to do it instead as a wedding gift to you
Outdoor receptions give you much freedom when choosing your menu because you can serve anything that you want including barbecue, long group submarine sandwiches or pizza.
As long as you offer foods that will accommodate both carnivores and vegetarians, you will be fine. You can always find items to suit all of your needs and every budget as long as your budget is reasonable for the amount of people that you are planning to serve. If it doesn’t fit, you may have to trim the invite list.
Mia LaCron is the founder of Cut-Wedding-Costs.info - http://www.cut-wedding-costs.info - devoted to helping individuals live out the wedding of their dreams on a realistic budget they can afford.
A wedding is one of life’s major rites of passage. It is certainly something to celebrate! Today, wedding books and magazines promote large weddings so that more and more wedding products can be sold. Wedding expenditures run into many thousands of dollars. And after this major outlay of money, most of what is purchased is never used again.
On the Spring Equinox 2004, my ex-husband (yes, that’s right! my ex-husband!) Larry and I remarried. We had been together for almost seventeen years, and had divorced several years ago when our relationship problems seemed impossible to resolve. But we still loved each other, so we figured out what to do to make things better, and are now happier than ever.
In planning our wedding, we wanted to keep it simple, small, and full of meaning. We wanted a ceremony and celebration that would be easy to prepare for and manage. We wanted an intimate occasion, surrounded by our closest friends who would participate with us in the intention of our union. And as we planned our wedding, we used the same guidelines for health and the environment that we practice in our daily home life.
Since most books and articles are about planning big weddings, I want to offer some tips on planning another sort of wedding that can be beautiful and meaningful in it’s own way.
* Make it your day. Each wedding can and should be a unique expression of the couple getting married. So create the day just the way you want it, to please the two of you.
* Choose the wedding traditions that are important to you. When it comes right down to it, the essentials of a wedding are the two people to be married, the minister or justice of the peace who performs the ceremony, the ceremony itself, and the guests who witness it. Everything else is decoration and tradition. Learn about wedding traditions and choose to do those that will make your day special.
* Write your own ceremony. The entire reason for having a wedding, really, is the ceremony. The most important aspect of a wedding is not the decorations, but the vows and intentions that are stated in the ceremony and that you give to each other. Research the time-honored patterns to wedding ceremonies and follow this pattern in your own personal way.
* Invite meaningful guests. When you have a small number of guests, you can spend more time with them and really experience their presence. Minimum is just the two of you, the minister, and a witness. Invite family and friends with whom you have real relationships. Eliminate those that might be invited out of social obligation.
* Have your wedding at home, either indoors or in your garden, or in a park. Rather than spending a lot of money on floral arrangements, we put that money into tidying up our back yard and planting perennial flowers that we are still enjoying today.
Looking back on our wedding day, we are very pleased with our simple, small wedding. We were able to relax and enjoy the day and experience the love and support of our best friends. Best of all, we still had energy left for the honeymoon…
For many more details on planning your simple, small, green wedding (including choosing flowers, rings, clothing and reciption, and photos of Debra’s wedding), visit http://www.debraslist.com/wedding, and click on “You are invited to… My Simple, Small, Green Wedding”. Debra is also available as a consultant to help you plan your wedding.
So, you decided to opt for an outdoor wedding under the sun
amidst the lake, ocean or beach. Are you sure you have
considered all the aspects of an outdoor wedding? Did you
consider the fact that you and your guests are going to be
outside for many hours throughout the day in the beating hot
sun? Some people worry so much that it’s going to rain or be
cold that they completely forget to prepare themselves for the
sun and the heat. The last thing you want is for you or your
guests to be burnt for pictures and leave the wedding early
because they are sun-fried. So here are some sun protection tips
to keep in mind whether you’re the bride, groom or guest at an
outdoor wedding:
- Do not tan in a salon or outdoor prior to the wedding.
Tanning of any sort is bad for your skin and can cause peeling
right before the wedding.
- If you want to get the outdoor tanned look, opt for
self-tanning products that will give you the same effect without
harming your skin. There are many lotions and foams that work
wonders on the skin.
- Make sure you apply sunscreen numerous times throughout the
day. Encourage your guests to do so as well. Indicate on the
invitation that the wedding is outdoors and remind them to bring
sunscreen. Here’s an idea - hand out small decorative bottles of
sunscreen as an early wedding favor for your guests.
- Try and avoid the sun as much as possible between the hours
of 10am and 4pm. The sun’s rays are strongest at these times.
Perhaps it’s a good idea to get pictures closer to the morning
or early afternoon, before anyone is too tired (or burnt) from
the sun.
- Pack (and tell your guests to pack) cover-ups, shawls, wraps
and hats for protection against the heat of the sun. Shawls are
perfect for covering up your shoulders since they are a prime
area for burns.
- The coordinator of the wedding should ensure there are tents
and umbrellas for shade. This is very important because spending
the entire day in the sun with no shade can cause heat
exhaustion and be harmful to your health.
- Finally, make sure there is plenty of water for you and your
guests. There’s nothing worse than being hot and thirsty. Lack
of water can cause dehydration which can be very dangerous for
you and your guests. Have water coolers setup in different areas
so they are easily accessible for everyone.
Keep in mind the precautions listed above. It will ensure that
your wedding goes smoothly for you and your guests. After all,
it is the most important day of your life and you don’t want to
take any chances of something ruining your special day!
Cleaning companies have a variety of marketing methods open to them for gaining new clients.
Telesales Yellow pages advertising Thompson’s Local Directory Mailing lists Leaflet drops Newspaper advertising Journal advertising Direct selling Internet advertising
In my own experience cold calling on companies has not met with any success. Most companies who want cleaning carried out already have cleaners in place and they will only change them if they think they can get it done cheaper or if they are dissatisfied with the cleaning. Managing to locate a company who are in the process of making a decision about their cleaning and telephoning them at that moment in time is a very long shot. You must make the decision as to whether it is cost effective to tie somebody up on the telephone for long hours for possibly little return. If for example your cleaning covers a very wide area such as a whole region of the UK then it may be worth it, but if you are restricted to a small area then probably not. What you may end up with are a lot of calls to give quotes simply because the company wants to see if they get their cleaning done cheaper than at present. Even in these circumstances and you submit a quote which is cheaper they still may not have the impetus to change if they are happy with their present regime. However you do end up on their files for that day when they do finally decide to change. So you could get a call one two or even three years down the line.
Advertising in the yellow pages is probably a must, as despite the advent of the Internet people do still use yellow pages to find services they require. At least this way the company are calling you for a quote so are more likely to actually require cleaners. From the point of view of closing a sale it is better if the client has chosen you rather than the other way round. The only problem with advertising in the yellow pages is one of cost. There are probably a large number of firms advertising their services that you are in direct competition with. Consequently you have to make your advertisement stand out from the others. To do this is a very costly exercise but ultimately should be worth it for the amount of new business it brings in.
Advertising in Thompson’s directories I find difficult to comment on. Whilst being cheaper than Yellow Pages in my own experience it has brought in very little new business.
Using a Mailing list and contacting companies with a sales letter, like telesales is a matter of chance. Again you have the time factor to pay for plus the postage plus the cost of buying in a mailing list if you do not put one together yourself. Putting a mailing list together is a very time consuming business. I know because I have done it, and again in our experience it brings in very little new business. If you have a high advertising budget then it may be something that you consider worthwhile.
As far as advertising in local newspapers is concerned this can become very costly for little or no return so I would not recommend this to any new cleaning business. Possibly with carpet cleaning and window cleaning you will have more success. However the take up from your advertisement will mainly be domestic customers not commercial concerns. Likewise advertising in specialist journals is a costly exercise but possibly worthwhile if your budget is large enough. However you have to research the journals carefully to make sure that the companies you are trying to target actually subscribe to these and more importantly read them.
Leaflet drops, direct marketing and Internet advertising will be covered in part two of the article.
Feelings of anxiety and concern are completely normal prior to a wedding. One or both members of the couple may experience the cold feet phenomenon that overshadows them and causes them to become concerned over their upcoming wedding. Usually this feeling is not a cause for concern and it passes naturally on its own as your realize that you are more excited than anxious but the following are a few tips for helping to work through your cold feet issues.
The first tip for dealing with cold feet is simply to relax and realize that this happens to a lot of people in your situation. This is important because many people will get caught up in believing that these feelings mean that they shouldnt go through with their wedding. Realizing that your feelings are completely naturally will help to waylay these fears.
After you calm down, get out a piece of paper and pen and just start listing all of your anxiety. This is particular helpful because you may have a great deal of trouble doing this which is significant because it helps you to realize that you dont really have anything to worry about. The other scenario is that you may find that you have a long list of fears and may be amused to find that none of them are really logical. Sometimes seeing your concerns listed on paper helps to alleviate them.
Another tip for dealing with cold feet is to talk to your partner about your feelings. Many people are hesitant to this because they are embarrassed about their feelings but talking to your loved one can really help in this situation. Chances are that they know you better than anyone and can assist you working through these things. They may even confess similar feelings which helps you to realize that cold feet are completely natural.
If you feel that talking to your partner will further exacerbate the problem consider talking to a close friend instead. Just talking about your anxiety can help to relieve the tension. Once you verbalize your fears you are likely to find that they begin to dissipate and you start to relax and look forward to your upcoming wedding.
Another tip for dealing with cold feet is to talk to a friend who has recently married to get their perspective on married life. They will be able to tell you how well things are going for them which should ease your fears about the transition to married life. They will also be able to assure you that they had similar feelings of anxiety and that there is no cause for concern.
Making two lists; one of your fears and one of your reasons for marrying your partner, can help to alleviate cold feet. Once you make this list you will most likely see that the reasons that you want to get married far outweigh your fears. Sometimes just seeing this on paper is very beneficial to eliminating cold feet.
Writing a love letter to your partner can be another way to combat the feelings of cold feet. This process gives you a chance to ponder all the reasons why you love your partner. Expressing your feelings in a love letter can refocus your attention on what you love most about your partner and make you realize that the small things you are worrying about are really inconsequential.
Going through old photos of you and your partner can also help to ease the anxiety of cold fit. Looking through pictures from your courtship is a great way to remind you of all the fun times you and your partner have had together and will help you realize that there are still lots of fun times together in store for the two of you.
Spending some time away from the planning process is another way to help alleviate cold feet. Wedding anxiety is often spurred on by other problems such as the stresses of the wedding planning. This stress can put you on edge and make problems seem bigger than they really are. Take a trip to spa or spend an afternoon participating in an activity you enjoy to take your mind off of all the details that are still remaining for a little while.
Finally, if after examining the reason for your cold feet, you come to realize that there are serious issues at hand it is advisable to postpone the wedding until these issues can be resolved. If your concerns are valid and your relationship is potentially harmful either physically or emotionally you may need to seek professional help. Issues such as abuse, addiction and betrayal can be reasons to cancel a wedding and discontinue the relationship.
Cold feet of feelings of anxiety over your impending wedding are perfectly normal. Many brides and grooms have these feelings and in most cases they are completely harmless. It is, however, important to trust your instincts and if there is something seriously wrong with your relationship, it may be wise to cancel the wedding.
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